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Choose Laughter

He stopped his car right in front of me, backed into a driveway, and started turning around. “What are you doing!” I screamed at the man. I was on a mission. I needed gas and this guy was turning around right in front of me. As he turned around he drove right by me without a courtesy wave. How could ...

It's How You Feel

We were stuck. As far as the eye could see. Holiday traffic is always difficult to appreciate. Cars lined up on the freeway. I started thinking that it would take us an extra hour to get home. The kids would need us to stop to pee or get a bite to eat. I could feel my neck and my shoulders ...

The Starter

It wasn't a big life event that made me want to change how I dealt with my life. It was maybe the most minor event we all have to do. A hair cut. I was sitting, waiting for my turn and I could feel my tenseness. When she went to the computer and called my name I was already wanting ...

Thank you

Why Gratitude

She handed me a gift. It was my birthday. I opened it. It was portable speaker. The first thing I blurted out of my mouth was... "This isn't the one I wanted." As soon as I said it I regretted it. My wife, who found the gift for me, frowned. I felt like melting into the rug. Just disappearing. I ...

How to Get Better Feedback at Work

You walk down the hallway back to your desk, feeling a little bit tired. You're about to make the turn, but instead you go straight and you end up in your boss’s office. You ask him, “Do you have a minute?” He says yes and you sit down. He is probably thinking. Here it comes… Let the complaining begin. Instead ...

How to Stop Worrying About Mistakes at Work

I’m standing next to a powerful woman at this networking event. She introduces my friend and I to her friend. There is a slightly longer than usual pause and I rush to fill the empty space. “Oh and this is my friend Alfred.” “We already met,” Alfred says. “Oh, I’m sorry. You knew each other already.” “No. Mary just introduced ...

What to Do When You Hate Your Job

Hating your job isn’t particularly uncommon. In fact, a Gallup study found that around 70% of workers find themselves “disengaged” from their job. Doing the same things day after day, while feeling you’re hardly making a difference in the world, can certainly contribute to a feeling of disengagement in the workplace. I was once that disengaged employee who hated my ...

How Being Creative at Home Makes You Happier at Work

Every night on my drive home from work, I make a mental list of things to do. Feed the dogs, make dinner, take a shower, make lunch for tomorrow. Once my work clothes are off and my pajamas on, I shoot through my nightly chores at a lightning pace. The quicker I complete my housework, the more time I have ...

6 Ways to Improve Your Focus at Work

I grew up with ADD. As a child, it was a constant struggle trying to manage my attention. In high school, I forced myself to work ahead on homework through math lessons so I wouldn’t get in trouble for fidgeting or talking to my neighbor. In college, I became a note-taker so I was forced to focus in lectures. Now, ...

I Need a New Job

How many times have you heard “I need a new job!” from a friend? How often do they act on it? How many times have you said this to yourself? And how often have you acted on it? 86% of people are currently unhappy at their job. These are stats from 2013, but from my work with clients I don’t think ...