So many of my friends complain about the restrictions that work puts on them. They have to come in at a certain time, they don’t have the resources to make their projects successful or their co-workers are difficult. They don’t see how these obstacles are windows into their ability to feel happy.
I do the same thing.
When you work for someone else or yourself there will be restrictions within your day. Your co-worker might ask for your help right in the middle of working on your own project or you might get a phone call.
It’s how you handle your restrictions, distractions and difficulties that will really support your happiness.
You must be able to see how a difficult situation is teaching you about yourself so you aren’t losing out on maybe the most important gift your job is trying to give you.
The ability to develop your happiness.
Your happiness depends on how you use your projects, relationships and your emotions to become a happier person.
My Grumpy Mood
Last week I was in a terribly grumpy mood. I was interrupted 4 times in less than an hour. I didn’t get enough sleep the night before and I forgot my lunch.
Not even my lunch hour could cheer me up. I just wanted to be left alone to sulk.
I felt trapped. The project I was working on was monotonous. I couldn’t focus on finishing the project off. I just didn’t want to do anything. I cursed my job, the project, and myself for not being able to find a way to be happy. My weak moments have a powerful effect.
Then I read a quote from my daily Buddhist email.
"'I am breathing in and making my whole body calm and at peace. I am breathing out and making my whole body calm and at peace.' This is how one practices."
- The Sutra on Full Awareness of Breathing
My freedom comes from how I interact with the elements in my life. If I allow a project to wreck my emotional balance I’m trying to control my life instead of living it.
When I get thrown off my grounded emotional state I can get back to the basics and just enjoy a few minutes of relaxed breathing. I’m also free to laugh at myself for getting so upset.
That’s exactly what I did. I forced myself to laugh in my car.
I literally walked out of work, went to my car and just laughed like a crazy man. Ha ha ha. He he he.
If anyone was watching I would have been locked up. I kept laughing for 1 minute. At least it felt like a minute, it was probably more like 30 seconds.
Dealing With Stress
The pent up stress began to release. I was able to slow down and just relax with my breath.
I went back to work and stopped trying to feel a certain way. I just breathed and worked. When I felt my grumpiness begin to rise from within I just let it come and go. There were no expectations, just me interacting with my feelings.
The internal freedom began to open back up. I was free to relax with my mood.
I was making myself unhappy at work, not the work itself.
My happiness came from accepting where I was, thinking of a quick plan to improve my situation, taking action on this plan and not allowing my emotions to dictate my happiness.
Have you felt trapped recently? What do you do to release your frustration?