How to Be More You

be-more-youJust be yourself and they will love you. How many moms have said that to their little boys and girls?

What they should really say is just be yourself and screw everyone else because people will find ways to hate you no matter what you do. This is true in business and life.


You want to be happy. That means you can’t let other people dictate your decision making process.

I’m trying to be more me, but I find it difficult.

I still remember the first day of school during my 7th grade year and a popular student telling me to sit down and stop being so annoying. The pain goes deep. I don’t want to be annoying. I want people to like me.


That’s where the conundrum begins. We can’t be ourselves without annoying people along the way.

It really is a catch 22.

If I’m myself then of course I’m going to annoy some people. Even super cool people are hated because they are just too cool. Steve Jobs almost has as many haters as people who love him.

So I’ve decided that it’s either a win-win or a lose-lose. It’s up to you to decide how to look at it.

As a business owner I don’t want to annoy anyone I want them all to like me. This is impossible. I know this, but still have trouble understanding it.

I know not every coaching client won’t click with my coaching style, but that’s my point. I can’t try to be someone I’m not otherwise they aren’t able to use my superpowers. It becomes a waste of both of our times.

Make a Choice and Run with It

The best option is to make choices that aligns with your values and forget everyone else’s reaction. The haters are going to hate. The lovers are going to love. You can’t stop this.

What you can do is not be afraid of annoying anyone.

It’s better to put yourself out there in a way that makes you happy. So if you like to wear a superpower cape to meetings because it helps you get in the consulting zone then go for it.

Your Turn

What do you think?

Are we raised to conform and not annoy?

Can we break out of these social struggles and live our core values?

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